- Create a Memory Space: Set up a small corner with your pet’s collar, a photo, or one of our memorials. It can be a comforting spot to reflect when you miss them most.

 
- Write Them a Letter: Put your feelings on paper—say goodbye, share memories, or thank them for the love they gave. You might keep it private or tuck it away with their keepsakes.

- Lean on Routine: Grief can feel chaotic. Simple habits—like a morning walk or brewing coffee—can anchor you while you adjust to their absence.

 
- Talk About Them: Share stories with friends, family, or online pet loss communities. Hearing their name out loud keeps their spirit close.

 
- Honor Their Favorites: Cook their favorite treat (for yourself or another pet), visit their favorite park, or play their favorite game. It’s a gentle way to feel connected.

 
- Allow the Waves: Some days will hit harder than others—tears one minute, laughter the next. Let those waves come; they’re part of loving them still.

 
- Seek Companionship: If you have other pets, spend extra time with them. Their presence can ease the loneliness, even if it’s not the same.

 
- Celebrate Their Life: Hold a small memorial—light a candle, scatter petals, or dedicate a tree. Pair it with one of our handcrafted pieces for a lasting tribute.  

When a pet passes, children often feel the loss just as deeply—but they may not know how to express it. At Altered Timber, we’re a family business, and we’ve guided our own kids through this heartache. Here’s how you can support yours:  

- Be Honest, Be Simple: Use clear language like, “Fluffy got very sick and couldn’t get better, so she died.” Avoid phrases like “went to sleep,” which can confuse or scare them.

 
- Let Them Ask Questions: Kids might wonder where their pet went or if they’re to blame. Answer gently and truthfully—e.g., “No, it wasn’t your fault; she was old and her body stopped working.”

 
- Share the Tears: It’s okay to cry together. Seeing you grieve shows them it’s normal to feel sad.

 
- Make It Tangible: Help them draw a picture, plant a flower, or choose a memorial from our collection. Kids often find comfort in “doing” something for their pet.

 
- Keep Memories Alive: Look at photos or tell funny stories about their pet. It helps them feel connected instead of forgotten.

 
- Watch for Signs: Some kids act out, withdraw, or ask the same questions repeatedly. Be patient—it’s their way of processing.  

If they’re struggling, a small keepsake with their pet’s name can give them something to hold onto.

Books can offer solace, whether you’re reading for yourself or with your family. Here are some favorites we’ve found helpful:

 
- "The Tenth Good Thing About Barney" by Judith Viorst – A children’s classic about a boy grieving his cat, perfect for ages 4-8. Simple and comforting.

 
- "Dog Heaven" by Cynthia Rylant – A beautifully illustrated book for kids (and adults) imagining a joyful afterlife for dogs. Great for ages 3-7.  

- "When a Pet Dies" by Fred Rogers – From Mr. Rogers, this gentle book helps kids process loss with kindness and honesty. Ideal for ages 4-8.  

- "Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults and Children" by Herbert A. Nieburg – A practical guide for all ages, with advice on grieving and supporting others.  

- "Goodbye, Friend: Healing Wisdom for Anyone Who Has Ever Lost a Pet" by Gary Kowalski – A compassionate read for adults, full of reflections and rituals to ease the pain.  

 
These are widely available at libraries, bookstores, or online—some even as e-books. They’ve brought our family comfort, and we hope they do the same for you.  

- Lap of Love Pet Loss Resources (https://www.lapoflove.com/community/pet-loss-support) – Free downloadable guides, grief journals, and links to support hotlines across the U.S.  

 
- The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement (APLB)(https://www.aplb.org/) – Offers free online chat rooms, support groups, and a library of articles tailored to pet loss.  

- ASPCA Pet Loss Support (https://www.aspca.org/pet-care/pet-loss) – Provides a free hotline (1-877-GRIEF-10) and practical tips for coping with grief.

- The Pet Loss Support Page (http://www.petloss.com/) – Features a message board, Monday night candle ceremony, and a collection of pet loss poems, all free.  

 PetLossHelp.net

- Rainbow Bridge Poem 

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Their bright eyes are intent. Their eager body quivers. Suddenly they begin to run from the group, flying over the green grass, their legs carrying them faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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